Dad Badan Oo Ka Maqnaansiiya Lamaaneyaashooda Wakhti Dheer: Qaar Kama Qoomameeyaan
Tijaabooyin cusub ayaa muujinaya in qaar ka mid ah dadka xiriirka dheer leh ay si degdeg ah u go'aan xiriirkooda iyagoo aan sharraxaad bixin. Dean, oo 37 jir ah, ayaa 2022 diiday Nicole muddo afar sano ah ka dib, isagoo sheegay inuu xorriyad dareemay.
Kiisaska Go'itaanka Xiriirka
Dean wuxuu kula kulmay Nicole Bumble sanadkii 2018, waxayna iska wada degeen Chicago. Waxay wada noolaayeen oo ka hadlayeen guur, laakiin Dean wuxuu si qarsoodi ah u diiday rabitaankaas.
Sannadkii 2022, afartii sano ee xiriirka, Dean wuxuu bilaabay inuu ka maqnaansiiyo Nicole. Wuxuu xannibay taleefankeeda iyo baraha bulshada intuu shaqada joogtay, wuxuuna sheegay "Like a weight was lifted off my shoulders. I no longer had to bear her energy.".
Daraasadaha iyo Aragtida Khabirada
Saaraha xiriirka digitada, Liesel Sharabi, oo ah borofisar ka tirsan Jaamacadda Arizona State, wuxuu leeyahay isgaarsiinta digitada ayaa ka dhigtay ghosting "easier and potentially more socially acceptable.".
Becca Hansel, oo ah dawo-yaqaan cilmi-nafsiyeedka ku sugan Los Angeles, wuxuu qeexayaa in ghosting uu noqon karo "nervous system strategy" oo loogu talagalay dadka leh qaab-dhismeedka ku-xirnaansho ee 'avoidant'. Daraasad 2025 ah ayaa sheegtay cawaaqib maskaxeed oo labada dhinac ah.
Tusaalooyin Dheeraad ah iyo Tirokoobyada
Ashley, oo 25 jir ah kana shaqeysa iibinta waxbarashada Seattle, ayaa ka maqnaansiiyay saaxiibkeed ka dib afar sano oo uu khamriga aad u cabbay oo uu naxariis-darro dareen leh noqday. Waxay tiri "It still haunts me".
Boqolkiiba 84 qof ee millennials iyo Gen Z ayaa sheegay in la ghosted-gaaray; 60 boqolkiiba Gen Z ayaa xiriirka joojin kara qof qaraabo ah. Dating.com waxay shaqaaleysiinaysaa 'chief breakup officer' oo $3,000 bishiiba ah.
A growing trend sees people abruptly vanishing from long-term relationships without explanation. While some ghosters report relief, experts warn of lasting psychological harm for both parties.
The Rise of Digital Disappearance
Ghosting has become a common breakup method, with 84 percent of millennials and Gen Z reporting they have experienced it. Dating apps and social media have made it easier to sever ties without face-to-face accountability.
In some cases, ghosting is used to escape abusive situations. One woman in Seattle ended a four-year relationship with her boyfriend after he became emotionally abusive and started drinking heavily.
Relief or Remorse?
Some ghosters feel no guilt. A 37-year-old contractor told WIRED he felt relief after blocking his partner's number, saying, 'Like a weight was lifted off my shoulders.' He insists he made the right decision.
However, other ghosters later express regret. A Seattle woman admitted that ghosting her boyfriend still haunts her, noting she never gave him an explanation and that the uncertainty caused lasting distress.
The Psychology Behind Ghosting
Therapists suggest ghosting may be a nervous system strategy for people with avoidant attachment patterns. Digital communication has made it socially more acceptable, according to communication experts.
A 2025 study found ghosting creates more persistent psychological effects than straightforward rejection. Gen Z are also more likely to cut contact with loved ones, with 60 percent doing so compared to older generations.
Ilaha iyo xuquuqda sawirka
Sawir: Wired Xigasho
